According to the American Association of Psychology, between 40% and 50% of marriages end in divorce. This statistic, not necessarily encouraging, is the result of a recent study, which also shows that divorce could be linked to genetics. The study was published in the American Psychological Association.
The researchers compared the divorce rates of 20,000 adopted children with the divorce rates of their biological parents and adoptive parents. Regardless of the relationship of their adoptive parents, if their biological parents had separated, 20% of the children also divorced.
This study shows that there is a “gene of divorce”, a sort of genetic factor that would make us reproduce the actions of our parents. But do not panic, your destiny is not sealed even if your parents are divorced (or not, for that matter).
Divorce expert Erin Levine says it’s easier to replicate what we know. We identify with what we knew during our childhood or with a value that was transmitted to us for our education. “For example, there are many people who do the same job as one of their parents,” she says. “It’s easier for the child to get into known terrain,” she adds.
But just because a domain seems familiar to you, it does not mean that you will take this route. Other passions can come from various external elements. In short, your life is not defined by your parents.
In addition, psychotherapist Alison Stone says that we must not forget that all divorces are different and live differently. People are separating for reasons that vary according to the couples and characters of each person involved.
It is better to divorce and try to find happiness if a relationship becomes toxic. “Children of divorced parents live the divorce in many ways, depending on their age, the reasons for separation, their relationship with their parents, and many other things,” she concludes.
Even if the divorce is genetic through a certain gene, that is not why it is inevitably. So, even if you are “predestined” to divorce, according to this study, you can take action to prevent it from happening. “Influence is not the same thing as predetermination, our identity and behavior are changing and evolving, we are constantly adapting to the stages of our lives,” explains Alison Stone.
“We can change our genes by adopting a lifestyle that is more like us,” she adds.